Are you feeling unappreciated in a relationship?
Basically, there are three general places we feel unappreciated: work, home, and within a relationship. If you are feeling unappreciated, it’s probably within one of these three areas of your life.
For example, children (especially teenagers) are notoriously unappreciative. Also, spouses and bosses seldom recognize and appreciate the contributions we make. Even friends and coworkers can fail to show the appreciation we believe we deserve.
Actually, everyone feels unappreciated at times. Consider these ideas if you’re feeling unappreciated in a relationship.
Spot if you’re feeling unappreciated in a relationship
1. You feel resentment towards someone in your life.
If you feel resentful toward someone, you might be feeling unappreciated. Especially if they did not do anything obvious to upset you.
If you’ve been feeling resentful lately, ask yourself why?
2. You do all the work to maintain a relationship.
Are you doing all the work in a relationship? Is the other person doing their share? Unfortunately, this may be why you feel unappreciated.
Relationships are never exactly equal. Healthy relationships are equal over time, but not all the time.
3. No one thanks you for your contribution.
We don’t have to receive a medal for every little thing we do, but it’s nice when others recognize our efforts.
4. No one asks for your opinion.
When no one asks our opinion, we don’t feel valued. But, when others ask your opinion, they respect you.
5. The other person isn’t making time for you.
If someone never has time for you, you’re likely to feel unappreciated in the relationship. This is especially true if they seem to have time for other people and activities.
Does the list above resonate with you? If you are feeling unappreciated in a relationship, it’s time to do something about it.
Follow these strategies if you are feeling unappreciated:
1. Determine why you feel unappreciated in a relationship.
Write down the times you feel unappreciated. What exactly is happening? Who is involved? What is being said or not being said?
2. Determine what you need to feel appreciated.
What needs to change? What has to be done or said for you to feel better?
3. Be more appreciative.
This might sound odd, but a good strategy for receiving more appreciation is to give more appreciation. However, this can be hard to do when you feel unappreciated. Try it and see if this strategy works for you.
4. Talk about your needs.
It’s always better to communicate your needs than to just remain upset. For instance, tell the other person how you’re feeling and why. Also, be sure to offer a solution and be willing to listen to the response.
5. Change your behavior.
If your actions aren’t appreciated, perhaps what you do doesn’t matter to the other person. Maybe you should spend it in other ways. For instance, you could rearrange your life to feel more appreciated.
In some situations, you simply have to accept that you won’t receive the appreciation you deserve. This often occurs in work situations. Focus on feeling proud of your contributions and be thankful for your paycheck!
Still, you can receive the appreciation you desire if you speak up for yourself. Most people are kind and will correct their behavior once they realize the negative it has on others. Avoid suffering in silence and get the appreciation you deserve!