Are you helping your child deal with stress at school at and home?
If you assume that your child has an easy, stress-free life, you are not alone.
Many adults wrongly believe that children’s lives are easy and that they lead a relatively stress-free life.
After all, kids are not saddled with bills to pay or relationships to work on. And they certainly don’t have bosses who are all out to make their lives a living hell.
By comparison, kids have it easy. Right?
Children get stressed out too.
In Japan and some countries in Asia, the pressure to extremely high grades to get good grades. So high that children actually commit suicide when they do not get the grades that their parents expect from them.
In the West, kids get stressed out if they do not fit in with their peers and for many other reasons too.
Sometimes they might be lagging at school and that can make them feel inferior.
Or there could be other kids who’re bullying them.
Even a household where the parents are bickering non-stop can affect a child emotionally. How? It can make him or her stressed and anxious.
Stress is not exclusive to adults alone.
In fact, it’s harder on children because they lack the emotional maturity and mental acuity to know how to manage stress. They have no idea how to cope with their stress whether at school or at home.
That’s where you and I come in!
I’ll share 4 techniques that you can use as a parent to help your child cope with stress.
The more you practice these stress management techniques, the better your child will be at coping with school stress now.
But that’s not all.
Teaching your children these stress management techniques will help them develop into healthy, emotionally stable adults who don’t freak out or fly off the handle the moment the going gets tough.
Tip #1 For Helping Your Child Deal With Stress: Ensure They Get Enough Sleep
One of the best ways to cope with stress is to get sufficient sleep.
Sleep is essential so that the body and mind gets time to rest and recuperate.
Like they say, “When nothing goes right, go to bed.”
Do not let your child stay up late playing video games or reading or watching TV. Get them to bed daily at a fixed time.
What else can you do for helping your child deal with stress?
Tip #2 To Help Your Child Cope With Stress: Talk To Your Child
One of the biggest reasons children get stressed out is because parents just don’t spend enough time talking to them.
If you notice that your child looks sullen, depressed or listless, you can bet that something is bothering them.
When you ask them whether they’re ok and they nonchalantly reply you with a “Yes” , dig deeper.
If you can feel it in your bones that something is just not right, you’ll need to prod and keep asking.
In some cases, your child may be getting bullied at school.
She may be afraid of telling an adult, much less telling her parents.
There are several cases where students have committed suicide because of bullying and the parents never knew how depressed their kids really were.
You have to be alert.
There are so many different scenarios that can cause severe stress for your child.
It ranges from not being socially accepted by her peers at school to even an adult in authority behaving towards your child in an unsavory manner.
The only way to get to the root of the problem is to keep digging till your child speaks up and tells you what’s wrong.
Just telling you how she feels or what’s bothering her can lift a load of her shoulders and make her feel tremendous relief.
Talking to your child may be challenging at times, but its one of the ways for helping your child deal with stress.
Tip #3: Tell Them That It’s Ok Not to Be Perfect
Even adults need to be told this and it’s even more important to tell your child to strive for excellence but not aim for perfection.
They should aim to work diligently in school as best as they can but not be too hard on themselves if they do not get the grades they want.
Many children take defeat personally and feel like losers if they don’t qualify for the football team or cheerleader team… or whatever other ‘in’ thing that all their friends are going crazy about.
The boy who is a champ in the Math team may feel like an awkward nerd when he sees his classmates in the football team getting all the girls’ attention.
He may wish he was tougher and sportier but he knows that he just can’t be. His self-esteem suffers and despite the trophies he wins at the Math tournaments, he still feels ‘useless’ inside.
This is a form of stress too.
The wise parent will tell the boy to be positive and focus on his strengths.
Let him know that one day, his skills will land him an executive position where he’ll be paid handsomely and women will look at him in a whole new way.
It’s all a matter of changing their perception and shoring up their self-esteem.
Tip #4 For Helping Your Child Deal With Stress: Help and Reward
Sometimes your child may be stressed out because they just do not understand their school work.
You’ll need to either help them out with it or get a tutor to help coach them.
It can be depressing when they see their peers forging ahead and getting good grades while they lag behind despite their best efforts.
Some children need more time to learn. That’s just the way it is. So, you’ll need to be around to lend a helping hand.
The same applies to other things too.
For example, if they’re trying to make the swim team, they may need you to take them to practice.
Or the girl who is trying to make the cheerleader team may need her mother to give encouraging words of support when she’s about to go for try outs.
All these little things will greatly help to reduce the stress that kids face in school.
Rewarding good behavior or achievements is also a great way to reduce stress.
If your kids get good grades, do reward them.
It will not only motivate them to do better but the child will not feel unappreciated.
Far too many parents believe that it’s a child’s duty to get good grades in school and by doing so, the kid is just ‘doing his or her job’ and it’s the norm.
Well, it’s NOT the norm.
Even adults get promotions, encouragement and bonuses when they perform well.
So, praise your kids and reward them when they excel.
The way you talk to your child will become their inner voice. So, be positive and encouraging.
When a child feels good about himself or herself, they’ll not be stressed out. Both emotions are diametrically opposed.
Make It A Priority To Help Your Child Cope With Stress From School
If your child is stressed out, he or she needs your help… and in almost all cases, you’ll definitely be able to help them.
So, keep an eye on your children and don’t take their answers at face value if their behavior and actions don’t correlate with what they say.
The best way to reduce a child’s stress at school is to deal with it head-on as a parent!
Ask your child:
- What stresses you out most about school? (school work, appearance, social issues–fitting in, having friends, being teased, etc?)
- How do you cope with the things that stresses you out most?
Then listen attentively to your child’s answers!
Don’t let your child face her stressors and worries at school alone.
Use the 4 tips for helping your child deal with stress at school and thrive!
What tips have YOU used for helping your child deal with stress at work or at home!
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