How To Destress Your Busy Life

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Study after study has shown that stress affects women more profoundly than men.

It doesn’t just invade your thoughts, replacing positivity with negativity. It can be physically harmful.

While a little bit of stress can be good, too much for too long is extremely dangerous.

As women professionals it’s essential that we learn how to destress! Darlene Tweet This!

Here is a great place to start.

I used these four techniques to banish chronic stress from my busy life, without having to give up the things that I really love to do:

How to Destress: Break Free from Stress

Getting rid of the stress in your life requires you to be pro-active.

You have to want to ease the stress and second, be willing to take the steps required to ease it.

Many people find themselves addicted to the drama that comes along with being eternally stressed out. Don’t be fooled—this is not how you should live your life.

It’s time to get rid of the toxic people and circumstances in your life.

If there are situations that you have put yourself in that do nothing but breed stress, if nothing good come from them, it is time to stop participating in those situations.

Cutting people out of your life may feel harsh, but in the end, you will be happier for it.

Do not let toxic circumstances ruin your life.

You also need to turn off technology.

Technology allows the media to bombard you with negative messages about how you are not enough, will never be enough. This is simply not true.

You can eliminate these influences from your life by cutting ties with technology. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to throw out your devices—just use them wisely.

It’s also time to simplify your life.

Live within your means, spend less, buy less, give things away or throw them out if you do not absolutely need them. Clutter spawns more clutter.

Learn to say no, both to yourself and to other people. Don’t let other people control your life.

How to Destress: Embrace Solitude

Those looking to learn how to destress should start with learning to embrace solitude.

Being constantly surrounded by people, whether they are actually physically around you or are on your devices, can be exhausting and will only feed into your stress.

Instead, spend some time in nature. Read a book that will bring you joy.

Start journaling (this can help you unload your thoughts on to paper so you do not have to carry them in your head).

Learn to pray and meditate daily.

These are just a few of a long list of stress management activities  that you can start using today to distress your busy life.

Do some things alone.

Many people are actually afraid to be alone with their thoughts, as this means they will have to confront the difficult situations and emotions they might be experiencing.

Face those fears, deal with them, and then grow.

How to Destress: Cultivate Habits that Bust Stress

It is not enough just to deal with stress as it arrives.

Learning how to destress starts with breaking the routine of stress, but it does not end there.

Once you have actively eliminated stress-triggers  from your world, you can start to build habits that will prevent stress from ever being allowed to overwhelm your life.

These habits include exercising, eating clean, getting plenty of rest, making time in your schedule for fun, and monitoring your self-talk (the voices in your head that are both positive and negative).

Building these habits takes time. But the sooner you get started, the sooner you will arrive where you need to be!

Exercising, especially, is one that many people avoid because it is time-consuming and people who are not already in shape may feel as though there are no exercises they can do.

Even just walking around the block is a great way to get started.

Especially focus on having fun and getting plenty of sleep—these are two things that very few people get enough of.

If you have to, put them on your to-do list or schedule.

How to Destress: Live a Harmonious Life

My friend  had a difficult childhood, but she grew up to have a great husband that loved her and three kids that adored her.

Yet, she continued to hold on to a grudge against her step-mother, that made her unhappy, despite the fact that she never saw the woman again after she got married.

Only when she let go of those past hurts did she actually feel free and happy again.

Living a harmonious life is a big part of learning how to destress. This means being a peace maker in your own life, cultivating a habit of gratitude, and being ready to forgive.

Instead of holding on to grudges and slights and looking for opportunities to take offense (all of which cause stress), live in harmony with the people and the world around you.

I can teach you how to destress your busy life and face the complex challenges in your life without losing steam.

Conquering stress requires ACTION!

Too many women spend too much time stressed out.

You can change that starting right now.

Download my FREE guide : 50 simple stress management activities.

An Inspirational Quote For You

The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence. Norman Vincent Peale Tweet This!

I would love to hear from you!

Use the comment box below to share your thoughts with me on these two questions:

  1. When you spend time alone, what do you most enjoy doing?
  2. which one of the stress relief techniques above would be easiest for you to implement right away?
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  1. Mary Pitt says:

    I love to read but I have realized that it is something that has gotten pushed to the sidelines of my life because of everything else that I “need” to do. There is nothing I love more than curling up with a good book and some delicious coffee and getting lost in the story, but it has been years since I have done this, maybe even a decade. I am going to take some of my time back and start reading again! I am looking forward to spending some time alone reading and decompressing a bit. This blog also helped me realize that I have someone in my life right now that is very toxic. They are someone who always brings me situations fraught with drama and accusations and being around them and trying to diffuse the situations are so exhausting. I know now that I need to take some time away from them, I am not sure yet if it is going to be temporary or permanent, and I am super nervous about doing it, but I really think it will be good. Not just for me, but for them too. Thank you Darlene.

    1. Darlene Berkel says:

      Mary, thanks for sharing. Can you set aside just 15 minutes a day to curl up on your coach with a good book and some delicious coffee? You would be amazed at how just 15 minutes of downtime on a regular basis can help you decompress. Make a date with yourself at 8pm every night ( or whatever times works best for you). Or maybe a weekend date with yourself would work better for you, say every Saturday afternoon at 4pm. Schedule it and keep that appointment with yourself. It’s a good way to destress and balance your life. Regarding toxic people in your life, it seems you have already the most important thing, which is to recognize that someone is a toxic element in your life. The next step is also important, to get rid of the toxicity in your life. Remember I am hear for you, so feel free to reach out to me if you need help taking the next step.

  2. Regan DuPaul says:

    Darlene, I love what you are saying about living a harmonious life! I know I need a lot more of this in my life, and yet sometimes it feels like this is impossible! I have noticed that I seem to get angry so easily lately and I have so little patience. I am getting angry at everything from bad drivers who cut me off on the highway to my one year old fussing because she is cutting a tooth. These things never used to make me this mad and, Darlene, I feel so bad! I don’t want to lose my cool and yell at the driver and let it totally ruin my day, and I especially don’t want to yell at my sweet little girl who just needs some extra attention. What are some things that you do to help you stay patient and peaceful? I really want to learn to live with more harmony, and much less stress.

    1. Darlene Berkel says:

      Regan, angry outbursts ( whether at the driver or at your little girl) is one of the classic signs of stress. When you see yourself getting angry a lot ( especially if that was not the case before), take that as a warning that you need to change something ( or a few things) in your life. Something or someone is stressing you out. Take a moment this week or this weekend to reflect on your life for the last 2 weeks and try to figure out what it is that is getting under your skin. Someone at work? A heavy a overly burdensome workload? Issues at home? Anxiety about the economy? The daily commute? Worry about your health or the health of a loved one? You need to identify the real source of your anger/irritation/frustration before you can tackle it. Writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal is wonderfully therapeutic first step. Once you’ve written them down, if you need help developing a personal stress management plan, feel free to contact me here

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