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How to Have More Patience & Relieve Chronic Stress

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Wondering how to have more patience to zap stress?  You’re not alone.

From fast food to instant contact via email and Smartphones.  Fact is, we are surrounded with products and services that provide instant gratification.

But there are two  drawback to all of this instant service.

  1. It can lead to unrealistic expectations for ourselves and others.
  2. It also destroys our capacity for patience.

Unrealistic expectations = More stress!

On the other hand, learning how to have more patience helps us reduce chronic stress and overwhelm in life.

Most of us are familiar with the frustration that begins to grow inside of us whenever we have to wait – for anything. (And I mean…anything!!  Myself included).how to have more patience

Over time, this frustration causes our stress levels to build and can lead to a short temper along with increased blood pressure!

Are you starting to see the importance of learning how to have more patience?

Try these methods to learn how to have more patience and reduce stress.

  1. Take a step back.

    The next time that you feel frustrated over a delay or other situation, do this.  Try taking a step back and looking at the issue from a different angle. It took me some time to learn to do this, but it’s crucial for anyone who want to learn how to have more patience.

  • Stewing over the circumstances isn’t helpful to anyone. Focusing on finding a solution helps your brain change gears so that you feel less stressed. It’s also easier to remain patient when you believe that a resolution is on the horizon.
  • Obstacles come in many forms. It could be physical circumstances that prevent us from moving forward. Or it could be intangible circumstances and external influences that can cause delays. Regardless of the circumstances, try looking at all aspects of the situation.  That’s the best way to find a solution that helps you get past the obstacle.
  1. Focus on what you’ve achieved.

    Many of us naturally begin to feel impatient if we’re making slow progress towards our goals. (I am GUILTY of this big time!!!)  Rather than thinking about what you haven’t accomplished so far and how far you have to go, focus on the progress that you have made.

  • Maintain your motivation and build your patience by celebrating small victories as you work towards the fulfillment of your goal.
  • Do gentle exercises that focus on stretching and breathing.  Yoga, Tai chi, or meditation could be good choices. Stretching and deep breathing help you to remain calm and patient as you work towards a goal.
  1. Set realistic expectations.

    Sometimes we become impatient with ourselves and others because we have unrealistic expectations. The next time you start to stress over a delay or other obstacle, try to be more flexible with your schedule and expectations. Consider a range of results or behaviors that would be acceptable to you.

  1. Identify your triggers and develop a plan to remain calm.

    Everyone has certain triggers – people, places, or things – that make them feel impatient and stressed. Figure out your most common triggers.  Once you identify them, think of ways that would help you successfully cope with them.

  1. Laughter is the best medicine.

    Learn to laugh at little delays and frustrations. Make up a joke about some aspect of the situation and enjoy a chuckle. You’ll feel your stress begin to melt away.

As you use these tips to build your patience and reduce your stress, you’ll learn how to pick your battles wisely.  You will also learn how to maintain your self-control in the face of delays and unexpected events.

Life is too short!  You are too blessed to be stressed!

Learn how to have more patience to reduce chronic stress using the 5 tips above.

If I did it, I know you can do it too!

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  1. EXCELLENT points Darlene! When people complain about traffic and I find myself doing the same or caught in some I remember when I drove in LA and was told by a native, “if you aren’t standing still it is good, just turn up the music and sing along!” When you sing along you are breathing and if you have a voice like mine, you are laughing. It helps me!

    1. Darlene Berkel says:

      Thanks Haralee! I am notorious for complaining when stuck in traffic. I gotta keep working on that. Even though I live on a small island with very little traffic, we do have lots of roaming animals ( mostly cows and goats), and they ALWAYS have right of way. LOL.

  2. Great tips here Darlene! It takes effort, but it is so worth it. I used to be ready to explode waiting in long lines, but now I try to put myself in other’s shoes. It really does work.

    1. Darlene Berkel says:

      Rena, I’ve now mastered the art of patiently waiting in long lines. It really does help to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. The only time I get impatient in line at the grocery store if when someone keeps leaving the line to add more and more items to their basket! It’s hard to put myself in their shoes. LOL.

  3. Good post. #5 is my favorite and easiest to implement. The others will require a little more discipline of me. However, I’m so going to try. Going to share this via Twitter.

    1. Darlene Berkel says:

      Thanks Teri. Laughter should come easy for most people ( except those who have zero sense of humor). Truth is, if we try hard enough, it should be possible to make up a joke about some aspect of the situation and enjoy a good chuckle. I tried that once while in line and the grocery store. The cashier kept complaining that her hands were hurting, that her back was hurting, that her feet were hurting…which would explain why she was going so slowly. I told her there were two choices. 1) let me cash out my own groceries at $1 or less for each item, or 2) consider me her boss for 10 minutes and take the rest of the day off while I assign another cashier! She loved the idea of taking the rest of the day off. I LOVED the idea of cashing myself out for less that $1 per item! 🙂 We both had a good laugh.

  4. Darlene, How do you know I needed this today? I especially like the laughter tip. Sometimes I need to find my sense of humor again. It always helps.

    1. Darlene Berkel says:

      Glad the timing on this one was perfect for you Laurie. Personally, I need those reminders everyday…lol! Patience is not my strongest characteristic at all. I’ve been working on becoming more patience for some time now. I am getting better and better at implementing and applying all 5 steps…but truth be told … laughter IS the best medicine.

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